Let us look at some gifted characteristics, examine why you may have been unidentified if you were gifted, and what you can do about this as an adult:
Before you go into tall-poppies mode and deny any possibility of being gifted ask yourself whether you are
If you can answer yes to many of these questions, you may well have been a gifted child. So how did they miss you?
Perhaps it was more important for you to fit in when you were young, so you might have been busy hiding your light.
Or you may have been overlooked because your parents or teachers were unaware of the characteristics of gifted children.
Finally, you may have been what we now know as a "Visual Spatial Learner".
.then you may be a gifted visual spatial learner.
As a visual-spatial learner you will find listening more difficult because you learn better visually. Unfortunately, most teaching/learning situations continue to rely heavily upon speaking and listening. But the good news is that you can succeed in a predominantly auditory learning world provided that you learn by using:
You may also have found it hard to 'fit in'. Perhaps you have always felt 'different', and as a child it was difficult for you to make friends. You may also have had low self esteem at school, getting attention as the class clown. You may have felt disengaged from the educational process that other kids found interesting because you were bored, and had lost all interest in school work. You may have even left school early because you got low marks - research indicates that many unidentified gifted kids leave school early because they feel bored, misunderstood or inadequate, especially if they come from homes where scholastic achievement is not highly valued, and often they also come from disadvantaged backgrounds.
Well, you may be a 'late bloomer'. In gardens, a late bloomer is a plant that initially did not receive enough sun, and although it is a healthy plant it may take it longer to bloom, but may then continue to bloom for quite a while. Gifted 'late bloomers' have included Anna Sewell who wrote Black Beauty when she was 57 and Nikos Kazantzakis who was 66 when he wrote Zorba the Greek!
You may, however, feel quite comfortable with the person you have become and the life you have created for yourself, except for that little niggling feeling that you never quite had the opportunity to reach your potential. To continue the garden analogy, it's as if you have made do with being a camellia when you are in fact a rose.
So how would you go about finding yourself at this stage of your life? You will have to risk letting go of who you thought you were, and explore who you may become. What will you get out of taking that risk? New possibilities, new insight, new learning, continued growth and possibly a totally new life or career.
I hope that I have been able to encourage you to dust off that old dream you had and turn it into the closest reality you are able to make of it. So if you have been nursing a dream for years without being able to motivate yourself to make it happen, then it is an indication that you need my help as your coach.
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